2005-09-05

Poems and Obsessions

What is this guy looking at?Yesterday's Poem: I know that by saying this I'm going to catch flack from those harridans on the Ethics Committee, but I liked yesterday's poem about the poets in Musie's life. I bumped into the Chair and he told me that he liked it too.

Today's Musings: You've got to admit that it's good to see her out with R. And it's good to see that we have helped her get over M.

Wait, perhaps I should run that last sentence of mine through the "De-sarcasticizer". Yup. Turns out that what I actually meant was:

It's too bad that Musie isn't over M and finds herself thinking about who he might be sleeping with. But on the bright side, it's given me an excuse for a bit of clever photoshopping.

11 comments:

Agatha said...

I think Musie's rantings about that scrawny redheaded trollop is just fine--healthy even.
I'm more concerned about her Sugar Daddy vote in our poll and am hoping is not a secret hope for Dude-action.

coyote said...

That poem is a great, rambling, ambitious thing, isn't it, Dwarf? I mean, the romantics, Irv and the lcp in virtually the same breath. Interesting how she's chosen gents of the er, Dionysian, ilk to represent poets and poetry. I mean, Raymond Souster was a pretty button-down guy, and he doesn't get any airplay at all. These are the randy poets -- unlikely genetic experiments that somehow cross wispy young Lochinvars with potbellied old goats. Now, why is that image so popular & persistant? Do we figure poets must necessarily be horndogs?

And Agatha, I know you're a blessedly self-sufficient sort, but aren't there times in many people's lives when they just want to be taken care of, and the hell with integrity and independence? Particularly after a breakup? (I'm just full of questions today.) A Daddy, Sugar, Ready-to-Use, looks like a solution to their problems. It ain't, of course, but it's a pleasant fantasy until ya get tied up in the stringy details.

4th Dwarf said...

Aggie, healthy? Who's to say, I suppose. If she's awake at 2 in the morning, something's wrong, I'd say. Are the thoughts the therapy she needs or contributing to the problem? I don't know.

As for the negative thoughts of red-headed Y, it seems like she's blaming a fellow victim to me.

What's more insincere? Looking someone in the eye when you want the person they're after? or avoiding their gaze?

coyote said...

"What is the best way to recover from a failed relationship?"

Indeed. If she's awake at two in the morning, she's processing, Dwarf. Listening to all of the random thoughts and memories and what-ifs chirping like so many whispering crickets. But I am as much in the two a.m. dark as you, as to whether these irksome internal chirps are therapeutic or not. I just know that it's something that often happens to people on the backside cusp of a busted romance.

I agree that she may be blaming another victim -- but as our friend the Chair has said, it's more difficult if you're rejected because your chosen other just doesn't want to be with you, than if you can blame someone else, somehow. At least temporarily. And perhaps anger and blame are some of the crickets, some of the process. No clear way around 'em. You've got to swamp straight through the murk, and pray you don't bog down there. Acceptance is through there. Full speed ahead, and damn the bugs...

She has already noted that there's a difference sans M. Less weight. May make the journey less tiring, don'cha think?

Insincerity, I think, may be a whole 'nother post.

Conch Shell said...

Ya, well, by that logic everyone is a victim. Was it 5M or someone else who said: you can only be a victim for one day, then you're a willing participant.
So, guys, stop making excuses for stupid duplicitous bitch Y. It's bad behaviour to covet another woman's man, especially when you know the other woman. Y deserves some wrath.

As far as this 2 a.m. stuff goes, I believe it's normal in the processing process. I just hope she's not eating high-fat ice-cream and chocolate cookies too.

coyote said...

Not making excuses, Conch, so much as saying it takes two to tango. And then you get all tangoed up.

4th Dwarf said...

oh, boy, 5M is all sad and there's me being clever with the pictures.

i'd rather see her eating superfat ice cream than being so sad.

Agatha said...

"What is the best way to recover from a failed relationship?"

Aggie's break-up tips: Take up smoking. Explore your addictions. Get drunk with girlfriends. Wallow in your sadness. Stay in your pajamas all day (for a couple of days). Eat Hagen Daaz out of the container. Read People magazine and find out how Jennifer Aniston is doing with her break up. Avoid self-help books. Do yoga. Cry. Rent sad movies. Listen to Leonard Cohen. Listen to Lucinda Williams. Eat chocolate. Avoid volleyball beach events with CIDA people. Avoid perky bubbly people or people with so-called "positive energy". Tell someone to fuck off. Do crafts. Adopt a cat. Write poems. Stay away from Lavalife. Read the former Chair's blog.

Conch Shell said...

They always say in yoga that the camel pose is a very emotional pose. It's okay if you feel emotional when you're in this pose, they say. It's natural. I always thought that was a bit of bull, but apparently it's not. (for non-yoga ESI's, camel is: get on knees, lean back, put hands behind you and rest them on ankles, and enjoy the intense backband.)

4th Dwarf said...

like this or this?

either one would make me crumble.

Conch Shell said...

The first style was the typical camel, the next was some kind of uber-camel.
And, for a little yoga talk to help you male ESI's out, from Yoga and the Emotional Body: All emotions are SACRED. There is no such thing as a “negative” or “unhealthy” emotion or thought form, just an “unhealed” emotion or thought form. According to Yoga and Ayurveda, we all have ama or “unhealed” energies in the four bodies that are in need of being healed.
"The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes." Pema Chodron
And for grief and loss: “When the heart grieves over what it has lost, the spirit rejoices over what it has found.” Author unknown